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Post by StrArtem » Sat, 16 Jun 2001 12:43:14


I need some advice.  My daughter received a letter from a college that
indicates she is on the top of their recruiting list. They want to talk to her
midnight july 1. I know this might or might not happen but I'm looking for tips
on how to handle the questions from the school. Should we listen and take the
1st offer if there is one? Should we make a recruiting visit trip? How do we
stall them to listen to other schools without putting them off? Is this a
negotation process? she is interestd in the school. I know there is an early
signing period in November. Any other info would be appreciated.
Clueless dad
 
 
 

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Post by John » Sat, 16 Jun 2001 15:32:28

Here's a few things to think about in no particular order.

Does the school offer an academic program that fits your daughters major
interests?

Is it hundreds or thousands of miles from home. Is she a home-body who
will get homesick if she knows you can't get to her in a few hours? Or
is she independent and have no problem being away for awhile.

Do they have on campus housing? For all four years? Do they allow
freshman to have a car on campus?

Are they willing to offer a "full" scholarship which includes tuition,
books, meals and housing? Or tuition only which could cost you thousands
a year in board, books, meals and spending money. "Don't be fooled". A
full ride can sometimes only include tuition. Can you afford your share
of the offer?

Is it a public school or semi-private school. Public school scholarships
are 1 year at a time, while some semi-private schools offer 4 year
scholarships where as long as your eligible to play, even if they cut
you, you retain your scholarship and can finish you education.

Is there a work study program where she can earn extra spending money
while she attends school?

Do they provide academic monitors and tutoring to insure that she stays
on top of her academics.

What is the average student/teacher ratio.

What is the graduation rate for incoming freshman athletes?

Is is a small school or a large school.

If large, will she survive in a large school environment where she may
get lost in the crowd, or does she require a smaller school where she
will be able to get help and be closely monitored by the staff. Some
students do not possess the the time management skills and work ethics
to survive in a large school environment. And others work best in large
school settings.

Is the coaching staff full time or part time. How long have they been at
the school, and where did they come from? What is the philosophy of the
program. Academics first? Win at all costs? A little background info on
the coaching staff will help.

All the money in the world won't help if she doesn't fit the program
style and is miserable after 6 months on the team.

What does the coach see as her role as an incoming freshman, and in the
future.

Are they male or female coaches, and which does your daughter work best
with.

I could go on for ever. These are just some of the questions I asked,
and others I wished I had asked prior to making a decision with my
daughter. Notice I said "with", not "for".

Its a big decision for her. Don't rush into anything. If they really
want her, they'll wait. If not, they will be looking to replace her with
something better the next year anyway.

Remember, she's going to college to prepare to enter the "real world".
Softball is not at all related to that end. However, it is a way to help
pay for her education, while keeping her focused.

Most of all, have fun and take to heart the fact that your daughter is a
"wanted athlete". Your and she should be proud..............

Quote:

> I need some advice.  My daughter received a letter from a college that
> indicates she is on the top of their recruiting list. They want to talk to her
> midnight july 1. I know this might or might not happen but I'm looking for tips
> on how to handle the questions from the school. Should we listen and take the
> 1st offer if there is one? Should we make a recruiting visit trip? How do we
> stall them to listen to other schools without putting them off? Is this a
> negotation process? she is interestd in the school. I know there is an early
> signing period in November. Any other info would be appreciated.
> Clueless dad


 
 
 

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Post by Ben Schor » Mon, 18 Jun 2001 07:16:35

Let me preface this by saying I've never had to be on the recruit end of the
recruiting process so take these random thoughts with a grain of salt...

My advice would be to defintely take a recruiting trip before your daughter
accepts an offer; unless you're already familiar with their campus.  You
daughter's going to spend (probably) 4 years of her life there so she should
make sure it's someplace she likes.

If they sincerely want her (and it sounds like they do) then I don't see how
they can take offense to you saying "We're interested, but we'd like to see
your campus and learn more about your school first."

Remember that ultimately it's her college (not yours) so the decision should
be hers to make (with guidance and counsel from her parent(s)).  Also
remember (and remind her) that she's going to be a "student-athlete" and not
to forget the student part.  Pay attention to the academic parts of this
school and not just the softball parts.  Four years from now she may or may
not still be playing softball, but she WILL have to use her brain so she'd
best spend the time in college growing and learning academically as well as
on the softball field.

If they make an offer, you've carefully considered it, visited their campus
and your daughter is sure that's where she wants to go...then the decision
seems easy.  If she's not sure, don't rush into it.  If she's at the top of
their list she's probably at least somewhere on other people's lists as
well.

Congratulations and best of luck!

--
Aloha,

-Ben-
http://home.hawaii.rr.com/schorr


Quote:
> I need some advice.  My daughter received a letter from a college that
> indicates she is on the top of their recruiting list. They want to talk to
her
> midnight july 1. I know this might or might not happen but I'm looking for
tips
> on how to handle the questions from the school. Should we listen and take
the
> 1st offer if there is one? Should we make a recruiting visit trip? How do
we
> stall them to listen to other schools without putting them off? Is this a
> negotation process? she is interestd in the school. I know there is an
early
> signing period in November. Any other info would be appreciated.
> Clueless dad


 
 
 

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Post by LATE 4GA » Mon, 18 Jun 2001 12:39:29

Tell me the school, and I'll tell you if she should sign.  (JK)  PK
 
 
 

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Post by Scot » Mon, 18 Jun 2001 13:14:25

How can you possibly say that? You have no idea what this girls career plans
are. Going to college on an athletic scholarship is a lot more than the
athletic part. She will spend 4 or 5 years there playing ball but another
40+ possibly using the education she receives there.

Scott


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> Tell me the school, and I'll tell you if she should sign.  (JK)  PK

 
 
 

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Post by Dan Rosso » Mon, 18 Jun 2001 15:10:33

Dear Clueless Dad,

First and foremost never ever take an offer without a substantial amount
of investigation.  Remember your primary goal is to get your daughter a
great education that she can use to build her future life beyond
softball.  If a coach is really interested in your daughter and they
really have something to offer they will understand your need to take
your time to investigate them.

You certainly will tell them how interested you and the child are in
their offer but you do want her to meet the rest of the team, have a
chance to see the living conditions, talk to past players, evaluate the
quality of major your daughter is interested in pursuing before you make
a decision.  If the coach is only interested in a rushed decision you
can be sure the coach is only interested in their own needs and not
those of your child's. If the coach is only interested in their own
needs they will also be the type to abandon your daughter at the first
sign of trouble so be careful.

I have seen far to many girls go to Universities where they don't belong
and this usually ends in disaster.  Take your time and make an
intelligent decision.  Remember for the hours your daughter is going to
put in on the practice field, working out on her own, and traveling
during the season one can often exchange those hours for a job and pay
your own way though school, so don't let the treat of reduced
scholarship dollars force a decision.

The least you can do is as follows:
1. Visit the school
        a. the dorms,
        b. the sororities,
        c. the academic advisor in the appropriate major,
        d. the surrounding community
2. Visit a practice
        a. meet the players in a social setting
        b. asks the coaches how they handle certain situations
        c. ask how many players actually graduate and in what time period
        d. ask for the schedule including games practices independent work
outs       etc.
3. Talk to your daughter
        a. evaluate how many times she is going to be able to come home.
        b. How much time she is going to have to do her academics.
        c. make sure its her decision and not yours.

Good Luck

Quote:

> I need some advice.  My daughter received a letter from a college that
> indicates she is on the top of their recruiting list. They want to talk to her
> midnight july 1. I know this might or might not happen but I'm looking for tips
> on how to handle the questions from the school. Should we listen and take the
> 1st offer if there is one? Should we make a recruiting visit trip? How do we
> stall them to listen to other schools without putting them off? Is this a
> negotation process? she is interestd in the school. I know there is an early
> signing period in November. Any other info would be appreciated.
> Clueless dad

 
 
 

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Post by LATE 4GA » Tue, 19 Jun 2001 13:24:50

Don't get so testy!!  (JK-Just Kidding)  However, in the scheme of things, most
girls (in my opinion and experience) make pretty good choices.  So settle down!
 
 
 

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Post by LenR » Thu, 28 Jun 2001 06:06:53

Buy the book from Catharine Aradi, "Preparing to play Softball at the College
Level". I think it is $20.00  You can find it on the web.  here is the phone #

I to was a clueless dad, but this book led my daughter and I though the whole
process, my daughter got a full ride softball schlorship.  this book will tell
you what questions to ask, and what not to.  In short it will take you though
the whole process.  Good luck to you and your daughter. bye the way the process
is a little stressful , but very fun.

 
 
 

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Post by Hiller S » Fri, 29 Jun 2001 17:37:27

Correction on the web site and email: http://value.net/~cscsoftball and

Vince


Quote:
>Buy the book from Catharine Aradi, "Preparing to play Softball at the College
>Level". I think it is $20.00  You can find it on the web.  here is the phone #

>I to was a clueless dad, but this book led my daughter and I though the whole
>process, my daughter got a full ride softball schlorship.  this book will tell
>you what questions to ask, and what not to.  In short it will take you though
>the whole process.  Good luck to you and your daughter. bye the way the process
>is a little stressful , but very fun.

 
 
 

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Post by Cathi Arad » Tue, 03 Jul 2001 22:28:59

Thanks for the nice words...but want to correct the email and web addresses.

Cathi Aradi
http://value.net/~cscsoftball
Collegiate Softball Connection