1st baby coming - need advice

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Brian Drak » Tue, 26 Nov 2002 12:46:37


Hi all...  question:

My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
nauseam.

I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool was
that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
Canada in 2004.

Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
bike.....

Please Help !!!

Brian
C***te NC

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Spark » Tue, 26 Nov 2002 14:16:48



Quote:
> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
> February.  

mine's due Dec. 18th...Yikes!

Quote:
> Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

I get this constantly too...the thing to remember is that all the
"office" types just think that training/competing is a luxury that can
be put aside...we know it's not!  Alot is gonna depend on your wife and
how important she perceives your training to be.  If you're doing IM
then I'm sure that both of your lives already revolve around your
training.  Instead of saying "I'll quit cycling etc" why not say "I'll
tailor my training to this new situation".

My wife was road riding with me up until month 8 (stopped cuz the stem
on her litespeed doesn't go any higher!).  She still is "running"
stadium steps at week 38.  We're gonna have alot of family help in the
first few months and I've got a very flexible work schedule so I'm
planning on getting on the bike during the day when wife/baby are
napping etc (with grandparents around).  Again...my wife is fully
supportive of me getting out (and since she's *** feeding--she's the
grocery store)

Good luck!

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1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Feli » Tue, 26 Nov 2002 18:31:06

Hi Brian,

I became father of a boy (Joel) in September 01. In the first 3 month we had to less sleep
because Joel would sleep alone only after midnight (best 11:30pm, worst 3am). After 3
month that became better and when he was 1 year old he slept from 7pm to 7am.
In the first 4 months I didn't train a lot (2 to 4 hours a week). I started real training
in January/February.
To spend time with my family in the evening I normally train one or two time a week in the
morning (2 hours long ride or run at 5:20 or swim at 7am when pool opens). Once or twice a
week I trainded at lunch time (run, bike hill climb, swim in lake and go to basin with
son). On Sundays I often did long run with my wife and Joel in the stroller. Sometimes I
did long rides/briks in the evening or on Saturday morning.
This season I trained about 3500km on the bike, run 1200km and swam 90km. I did 4 olympic
distance, one half ironman distance triathlons, three duathlons (standard distance) and
two short Duathlons.
I don't know how much you trained before. But I was able to train about 7 hours a week and
still spend enough time with my family. I am lucky and life only 5 minutes by bike from
the office and don't loose any time to comute and can go home for lunch.
During holidays I trained less and spent most time with my family. You culd watch my
training log at http://SportToday.org/(data lost in September and
October).

My wife was pregnant with our second baby expected in late June 03. I feared that I get to
less sleep one month prior to IM Switzerland 03 (my first IM). Unfortunately my wife lost
our baby.

Felix
http://SportToday.org/

Quote:

> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC


 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by JoeD » Tue, 26 Nov 2002 23:02:53

Brian,

First of all, congratulations on your Ironman finish and on becoming a
father.  I am a father of three children (daughters - ages 7 and 3,
son - age 1) and was also down at Ironman Florida this year when you
were.  It was a cool race, you're right on with that...

You won't become an overweight couch potato overnight, although I did
gain a lot of weight during the birth of my first child 7 years ago
(pre-triathlon days).  Just be realistic about your time commitments.
It goes without saying that your most important job in the world will
be that of husband and father.

The timing is great because you've just come off of a whole year of
Ironman training and next year would be a good time to go short and do
things that don't require too much time committment like sprint /
Olympic distance tri's.

Here are a few tips that might be helpful based on my experiences in
trying to be a husband, father, employee, and triathlete:

1. Make sure your wife knows that she and your baby are the most
important things in your world. Period. Reaffirm that often.

2. Make the first three months after your baby's birth a "recovery
quarter".  Do base training and keep your fitness level, but don't
race.  Even if you could race, you'd risk violating the spirit of #1,
above.  Your baby is a newborn only once, but the races will still be
there in the future.

3. Find the optimum time to train based on a joint agreement with your
wife.  That might be early morning, lunch hour, or evening.  Share in
the baby care tasks.  Assume no more than one hour of training a day.
Assume no more than one two-hour long run/ride on weekends, after the
first three months.

4. Enjoy your baby.

5. Take care of your wife.

6. You'll be back in the swing of things, soon.  

7. When your child is older, incorporate them into your training (ie,
baby jogger, bike trailer, etc.)

8. Crossing the finish line with your kids yelling "go Daddy" is an
awesome thing.  Just wait until your child tells another kid, "Oh
yeah...well, my daddy is an Ironman."  It'll make you cry.

Congratulations,

JoeDom
IMFLA 2002 - 10:52
http://SportToday.org/

Quote:

> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Tom Rodger » Wed, 27 Nov 2002 00:13:31

Almost all the great age-group triathletes I know are family people, usually
with both spouses competing. Many pros also have spouses or children. Karen
Smyers and Nascha Badmann are good examples, and Dave Scott had some of his
best races after becoming a father.

Also note that Lance Armstrong is dominating TDF even more now as a father.
It focusses him, makes sure he takes down time with his family, and prevents
"overracing"--which is just as much a problem as "overtraining" for
endurance athletes. Even at his level of fame and ecstasy, he knows his wife
and kids are SO much more important, as is being a cancer survivor.

Racing is primarily mental, and also involves the fiery energy from the
heart (both physical and spiritual heart). Bringing new life into the world
is educational and causes the heart to blossom. In the long run, this can do
nothing but help racing, and augment those values, meanings,and rewards that
you were looking to get from racing in the first place. To race well with
perhaps a bit less training, a bit more quality time with the family, a bit
more appreciation for the time spent alone and with others--this is so much
more than just grinding out miles and shaving 15 seconds off your 40K
time-trial split.

Your child can be in your heart every moment that you train or race. They
can push you forward toward the finish line and into the heavens, and need
never "drag you back."


Quote:
> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in
mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my
colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after
February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool
was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some
people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Brian Wagne » Wed, 27 Nov 2002 00:58:26

Quote:

> > Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> > although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> > worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> > training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
> > at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
> > or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> > nauseam.

> I get this constantly too...the thing to remember is that all the
> "office" types just think that training/competing is a luxury that can
> be put aside...we know it's not!  Alot is gonna depend on your wife

Yes, I suggest you start banking those brownie points now.
Have your lips surgically bonded to her behind.  You do what you gotta
do, so you can do what you wanna do.
 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Richa » Wed, 27 Nov 2002 01:06:46

Not even close!  I have two boys and have been able to train without a
problem.  The biggest thing that changes is that you structure your
schedule much more.  I ran a marathon when my first boy was three
months old.  I'm not sure what workout a 12-mile jog-a-stroller run
falls under, but it's got to be worth something.

The other thing I did when I was training for an Ironman was to ride
to a destination while my wife drove the car.  I would start out a
couple of hours early and meet her at the end.

So there's lots of ways to do it.  Obviously, it helps to have a
supportive spouse, but there's no reason that you can't continue to
train as much as you did before.

Good luck.

Richard

Quote:

> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Jim Goss » Thu, 28 Nov 2002 01:40:34

Seems to be a lot of good advice here. And here's my two cents worth.

I think that starting a family shouldn't be an excuse to become a vegetable.
I have a buddy who used to run when he was working away from home. He now
works where he lives. He stopped running and put on about 40lbs. His excuse
is he doesn't have time anymore because he is spending time with his family.
I think he is setting a bad example.

Kids emulate their parents. Keep training, and make it work while keeping
your family values.

I try to do things like
1. have my wife carry my bike to my workplace and I ride home. workout
lunchtimes
2. do long runs and rides on weekend mornings.
3. Bring the family to the park when I do my open water swims and have a
little picnic after.

You can make it work if you want.

Jim


Quote:
> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in
mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my
colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after
February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool
was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some
people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Jeff Loechne » Thu, 28 Nov 2002 04:39:08

Congrats Brian,

Life is long, triathlons are short... I just did my first ironman this year
as well - along with my 19 year old son. He's been doing tri's since he was
6 and so have his two brothers. So, it will take a few years - but you might
end up with the best training partner you can imagine. In the meantime
you'll find plenty of time for both being a great parent and enough
training.

However... enjoy the good bike stuff now - just try outfitting 3 triathletes
and then yourself with bikes... yes, he got the spinergys for the IM.

--

Jeff Loechner


Quote:
> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in
mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my
colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after
February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool
was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some
people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Brian Wagne » Thu, 28 Nov 2002 05:53:27

Quote:

> However... enjoy the good bike stuff now - just try outfitting 3 triathletes
> and then yourself with bikes...

Count your blessings - you could have been a hockey, motocross, or
equestrian parent.
 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by P.F. » Thu, 28 Nov 2002 10:35:28

Birth control is cheaper...


Quote:

> > However... enjoy the good bike stuff now - just try outfitting 3
triathletes
> > and then yourself with bikes...

> Count your blessings - you could have been a hockey, motocross, or
> equestrian parent.

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Brian Wagne » Fri, 29 Nov 2002 00:51:15

Quote:

> Birth control is cheaper...

But then you have to do your own yard work and paint your own house.
 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Radioactive Ma » Fri, 29 Nov 2002 08:11:48

On Mon, 25 Nov 2002 03:46:37 GMT, "Brian Drake"

Quote:

>Hi all...  question:

>My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
>February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
>although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
>worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
>training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
>at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
>or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
>nauseam.

>I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool was
>that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
>Canada in 2004.

>Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
>through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
>awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
>that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
>time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
>maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
>bike.....

>Please Help !!!

>Brian
>C***te NC

Eat less.  Train less, especially at the longer distances.  Add some
weight training to your routine.  Get some equipment at home.
Schedule a nanny or babysitter to help out sometimes.  You will add
weight as muscle, but at least you won't be a flabby couch potato and
any excess muscle weight you've added will quickly disappear once you
start the long distance training again.
 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Harold Buc » Tue, 03 Dec 2002 13:09:27



Quote:

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

An understanding spouse helps a lot. Also, my health club has free day
care (once the baby is at least 6 weeks old), which was absolutely
critical for me last summer. I used it 5 days a week.

You'll probably need to schedule your workouts more than you're used to,
but this actually helped me train *better*. I'd arrange that I was doing
a long run Sunday morning, and if I didn't get my ***out the door I
wasn't getting a workout.

--Harold Buck

"I used to rock and roll all night,
 and party every day.
 Then it was every other day. . . ."
      -Homer J. Simpson

 
 
 

1st baby coming - need advice

Post by Derek He » Wed, 04 Dec 2002 06:07:56

Quote:

> Hi all...  question:

> My wife and I are lucky enough to be expecting a baby boy (our first) in mid
> February.  Unfortunately, I am also a  totally ***ed tri-geek.... and
> although I'm completely fired up about my upcoming parenthood, I'm also
> worried that I am going to become an overweight couch potato b/c of the
> training that everyone says I'll no longer be able to do.  All my colleagues
> at the office spout off 'you'll never be able to train again after February'
> or 'have fun on that bike now, you'll never see it again... ' etc ad
> nauseam.

> I finished IM Florida a few weeks ago (my first, oh man how freakin cool was
> that!).....   I am off the Ironman circuit for 2003, but plan on doing
> Canada in 2004.

> Can any parents out there share with me their secrets for staying in shape
> through early parenthood?  I know that long bike rides, etc are out for
> awhile and Im cool with that, just looking for some secrets from some people
> that have been there!  Need some advice on how to maintain fitness or less
> time.  Any books on the subject?  I need to 'maintain' for most of 2003,
> maybe do a marathon or two and just try not to forget how to swim and
> bike.....

> Please Help !!!

> Brian
> C***te NC

Brian,

My wife and I had a baby 6 weeks ago.  I too am a tri-geek and spent
the pregnancy completly freaked out about how am I going to train with
a baby. I have signed up for IMWis and IMFla next year.  That's about
all the races I want to do with the baby.  Congrats on Fla.  I was
signed up but gladly missed it because of the baby.

I have been able to maintain my workout schedule with the baby,
without too much of a problem.  I have been averaging about 10 hrs for
the last 6 weeks.  I have also been able to spend a great deal of time
with mom and the baby.  It is possible, so don't worry about not being
able to train.

Here are a couple of things I have done to make it possible

1.  Combine workouts and make the most of your time.  For example, I
run to the gym instead of driving like I use to.  I once took my long
run while having the tires changed.

2.  My wife and I both go to the gym and I am with the baby while she
works out and she does the same for me.  It makes for a very fun
evening.

3.  Running in the hood more than I use to.  I also spend some time on
the trainer.  Yoga at home now instead of at the gym.

Brian, it is possible to get most of your workouts in, be flexible and
creative.
I hope you have a supportive wife that knows how much all this means
to you, that helps too.

Enjoy the baby-

I have a lot more to share if your interrested.

Sydney's dad